Getting up twice is progress!

Lots of people ask me if Jamie is sleeping through the night yet. I just laugh wistfully.

But… honestly, we’re on our way there. I don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel yet, but I am convinced that this tunnel DOES have an end.

Our current schedule is: I nurse Jamieson sometime around 8 or 9 p.m. I then go to bed. Hopefully Jamie falls asleep too, and Doc puts him in his pack ‘n’ play or his swing, and stays downstairs with him. When he’s next hungry, Doc gives him a bottle of formula. Often he’s successful at keeping Jamie asleep during this process (yes, this child can eat in his sleep!). Then around 2 a.m., Doc brings Jamie to me to nurse again, and after that, we all go to bed. With luck, Jamie doesn’t wake again until 5:30 a.m., and then I can sometimes get him back to sleep for a little while after that before I get up and get ready for work.

So between the time I go to bed and the time I get up in the morning, I often nurse him just twice… sometimes just ONCE if things go really well! This is a massive improvement over the 4 or 5 times I’d get up to nurse him for the first three months of his life. Doc has really saved my sanity by staying up with him and giving him some formula at 11 p.m. or midnight, and then staying up for another shift. It’s not that Jamie doesn’t sleep during these early night shifts — he often does, in fact — but he tends to “murf” around in his sleep, moving and making little grunty sounds. I wake up easily when he makes noise at night (my “mom ears” are on), so him being away from me for a few hours helps me to get some good solid sleep.

6 Comments

  1. Peter

    Learn the ‘side lie’. Baby can feed. You can sleep. So can hubby. 🙂
    Stretch out like the morning clouds that reach across the plain, grasshopper. Be the fog floating above the river while animals come down to drink. Only then, will your Baby-Fu be great.

    Baby-Fu, like Kung-fu only more useful.

  2. Carrie

    Mom ears never go away and you do not want to know about the noises you are subjected to as the years go by. I so enjoy reading your blog posts. It makes me wistful with a desire to do things like make Anna sleep in my bed NOW so I can get some sleep.

  3. Doc

    Peter, I understand why feeding a baby while laying on your side (snoozing while doing it is somewhat implied) has become popular, but as deeply as we both sleep, we have determined that it is not entirely safe for us unless we are very alert. I doubt anything would happen mind you, but why take the risk? It would seem that it has resulted in tragedy for some parents and I can’t stand the thought of that being us. A recent CDC study seems to add weight to the idea that the practice has may not be as safe as some people assumed in recent years. While studying the debate, I have heard many people say things like “That could never happen to me, I am so in tune with my baby”… But then I saw the interview with the woman it did happen to, and I wondered if she had said things like that as well.

    We co-sleep Jamieson in a bassinet made for the purpose that attaches to the bed. He can be picked up and fed (sitting up in bed or in the rocker) and then placed back in his “safe but close” area. Our system may be a bit harder on us but hopefully it will pay off in a healthy and happy kiddo.

    So I would say, (speaks with lips out of sync) “You must be like the two mountains rising to meet the hungry panda.” : )

  4. Carrie

    I envy and watch from afar the discussion on new babies, feedings and such. Any kind of family bed is all well and fine, whether in the bed or at the side. The hard part is not that you don’t get any sleep, or do, that they cry or don’t, that they smell BECAUSE THEY DO, sometimes really good! The hard part is that they grow up in the blink of an eye. And in the bed that your baby sleeps in now is some other person, doing side-lie or co-sleep with your child!!! And once again, the only persons losing any sleep are the parents. THAT’S THE HARD PART! You all seem to be fabulous parents. And my advise, which will be so hard to follow, as I can barely follow it myself, is to relax and let go of the notions of right and wrong. It all comes together in the end as long as it is done with love, some common sense and A REALLY GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR. I have to get off my soap box now and buy some McDonald’s for the baby and the interloper!

  5. Bonnie

    I love the onomatopoeia of “murfing.” Josephine was so noisy sleeping when she first came home – she would make little hiccup noises constantly. She has quieted down a great deal now and is usually quite silent, except for the occasional crying in her sleep around midnight. Don’t know what that’s about, but all I have to do is pop the pacifier in her mouth and she’s good for the rest of the night.

    I like Carrie’s advice about letting go of right and wrong. The only right is what works for you and your baby! Glad to hear things are calming down and that the pumping is going well. 🙂

  6. Doc

    About Jamiesons night time sound making… He has a new trick. While completely asleep he will lift both legs as high as he can get them and slam them down on the mattress of his crib or co-sleeper with a mighty *whomp*! Then he goes completely still. : ) So the baby monitor will have this awful crashing sound and I will turn on the video and just see him sleeping peacefully like nothing has happened. Eventually I just stayed in the room with him because I was running up to check on him so often and thats how I finally saw him doing it. : ) Later Katy told me she had been kept up by the *whomp*s when he is in the co-sleeper.

    He is a tricky one. ; )

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